Conference Coverage

It’s okay to say ‘no’: Setting boundaries in oncology


 

AT ASCO 2023

Oncologists need to learn how to set boundaries in their professional lives and how to address their fear of saying “no” to sometimes illusory career opportunities in order to protect their well-being and reduce their risk of burnout.

This was the message from speakers at a special session on “Setting Boundaries” during the annual meeting of the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO).

Monica Sheila Chatwal, MD, a medical oncologist at Moffitt Cancer Center and Research Institute, Tampa, Fla., suggested that, like a painting in a museum, physicians should have “some level of guardrail” to protect their knowledge and expertise, and also their ability to be able to continue to care for patients.

Having set boundaries “provides more emotional and cognitive flexibility, and less uncertainty, in the relationships that we have with our colleagues, with our patients, with everyone around us,” she argued.

“More importantly, boundaries acknowledge that, as humans, we are multifaceted, multidimensional people,” and that “we have lives outside of medicine, much as we may or may not want to admit that.

“It’s great to be devoted to what we do, but there are so many other aspects of ourselves that make us who we are, and that is wonderful,” she said.

A calling, not a job

However, the idea of demarcating one’s professional and personal life can go against the still-persistent idea that being a doctor is a calling rather than a job.

“I don’t think it matters whether you call it a job or a calling,” commented another speaker at the session, Jonathan M. Marron, MD, MPH, Dana-Farber/Boston Children’s Cancer.

But even if it is a calling, which implies that “you are supposed to devote all of yourself to the work and not to anything else,” there is still a need for setting boundaries, he argued. Saying “no” and allowing “yourself to be yourself” are important measures, Dr. Marron emphasized, as taking time out can make you a better clinician.

Crucial to that is being able to communicate with colleagues and share a degree of “vulnerability,” added Dr. Chatwal. “Showing that you’re vulnerable not only to your trainees, but also to your staff and to your patients really normalizes everything.”

“I have nurses who are feeling like they have to work 24/7 and manage their inbox to answer all of their messages, because they feel like they have to keep up.

“But it’s nice for me to be able to model that and say: ‘Listen, I want you to know it’s not urgent, please take 24 hours and we’ll come back to it.’ ”

Communicating with patients

Dr. Chatwal noted that, while there are clear boundaries related to sexual or physical relationships between doctors and patients and around not treating family members or friends, the boundaries pertaining to communication, and “how frequently [patients] have access to us ... are not so clearly defined.”

The advent of telemedicine has added to that, she believes, as it offers a “patient portal that can allow access 24/7.”

“Does that mean we as physicians or providers also give that level of access? Are we supposed to check messages at all periods of time?”

“More and more people are becoming more cognizant of this,” she commented, noting that the issue has taken on greater import with the rise of social media and the “ability for our patients to request us as friends.”

She pointed out that former president of the American College of Physicians Wayne J. Riley, MD, MPH, MBA, suggested doctors should maintain an air of detachment with their patients, as “it allows us to protect ourselves and continue to provide that great level of care.”

On the other hand, she noted that there has been a sea change in how patients see doctors. Whereas in the past, medicine “was very paternalistic” with doctors seen as the “be all and end all,” now patients tend to be more knowledgeable and Dr. Google “makes them much more engaged in their care.”

But this can also cause problems when patients become “demanding for certain treatments,” she said.

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