The calls kept coming into the National Runaway Safeline during the pandemic: the desperate kids who wanted to bike away from home in the middle of the night, the isolated youths who felt suicidal, the teens whose parents had forced them out of the house.
To the surprise of experts who help runaway youths, the pandemic didn’t appear to produce a big rise or fall in the numbers of children and teens who had left home. Still, the crisis hit hard. As schools closed and households sheltered in place, youths reached out to the National Runaway Safeline to report heightened family conflicts and worsening mental health.
The Safeline, based in Chicago, is the country’s 24/7, federally designated communications system for runaway and homeless youths. Each year, it makes about 125,000 connections with young people and their family members through its hotline and other services.
In a typical year, teens aged 15-17 years are the main group that gets in touch by phone, live chat, email, or an online crisis forum, according to Jeff Stern, chief engagement officer at the Safeline.
But in the past 2 years, “contacts have skewed younger,” including many more children under age 12.
“I think this is showing what a hit this is taking on young children,” he said.
Without school, sports, and other activities, younger children might be reaching out because they’ve lost trusted sources of support. Callers have been as young as 9.
“Those ones stand out,” said a crisis center supervisor who asked to go by Michael, which is not his real name, to protect the privacy of his clients.
In November 2020, a child posted in the crisis forum: “I’m 11 and my parents treat me poorly. They have told me many times to ‘kill myself’ and I didn’t let that settle well with me. ... I have tried to run away one time from my house, but they found out, so they took my phone away and put screws on my windows so I couldn’t leave.”
Increasing numbers of children told Safeline counselors that their parents were emotionally or verbally abusive, while others reported physical abuse. Some said they experienced neglect, while others had been thrown out.
“We absolutely have had youths who have either been physically kicked out of the house or just verbally told to leave,” Michael said, “and then the kid does.”
Heightened family conflicts
The Safeline partners with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, which, despite widespread public perception, doesn’t work mainly with child abduction cases. Each year, the center assists with 29,000-31,000 cases, and 92% involve “endangered runaways,” said John Bischoff, vice president of the Missing Children Division. These children could be running away from home or foster care.
During the pandemic, the center didn’t spot major changes in its missing child numbers, “which honestly was shocking,” Mr. Bischoff said. “We figured we were either going to see an extreme rise or a decrease.
“But the reasons for the run were changing,” he said.
Many youths were fleeing out of frustration with quarantine restrictions, Mr. Bischoff said, as well as frustration with the unknown and their own lack of control over many situations.
At the runaway hotline, calls have been longer and more intense, with family problems topping the list of concerns. In 2019, about 57% of all contacts mentioned family dynamics. In 2020, that number jumped to 88%, according to Mr. Stern.
Some kids sought support for family problems that involved school. In October 2020, one 13-year-old wrote in the Safeline forum: “My mom constantly yells at me for no reason. I want to leave, but I don’t know how. I have also been really stressed about school because they haven’t been giving me the grades I would normally receive during actual school. She thinks I’m lying and that I don’t care. I just need somebody to help me.”
Many adults are under tremendous strain, too, Michael said.
“Parents might have gotten COVID last month and haven’t been able to work for 2 weeks, and they’re missing a paycheck now. Money is tight, there might not be food, everyone’s angry at everything.”
During the pandemic, the National Runaway Safeline found a 16% increase in contacts citing financial challenges.
Some children have felt confined in unsafe homes or have endured violence, as one 15-year-old reported in the forum: “I am the scapegoat out of four kids. Unfortunately, my mom has always been a toxic person. ... I’m the only kid she still hits really hard. She’s left bruises and scratches recently. ... I just have no solution to this.”