Worsening mental health
Besides family dynamics, mental health emerged as a top concern that youths reported in 2020. “This is something notable. It increased by 30% just in 1 year,” Mr. Stern said.
In November 2020, a 16-year-old wrote: “I can’t ever go outside. I’ve been stuck in the house for a very long time now since quarantine started. I’m scared. ... My mother has been taking her anger out on me emotionally. ... I have severe depression and I need help. Please, if there’s any way I can get out of here, let me know.”
The Safeline also has seen a rise in suicide-related contacts. Among children and teens who had cited a mental health concern, 18% said they were suicidal, Stern said. Most were between ages 12 and 16, but some were younger than 12.
When children couldn’t hang out with peers, they felt even more isolated if parents confiscated their phones, a common punishment, Michael said.
During the winter of 2020-21, “It felt like almost every digital contact was a youth reaching out on their Chromebook because they had gotten their phone taken away and they were either suicidal or considering running away,” he said. “That’s kind of their entire social sphere getting taken away.”
Reality check
Roughly 7 in 10 youths report still being at home when they reach out to the Safeline. Among those who do leave, Michael said, “They’re going sometimes to friends’ houses, oftentimes to a significant other’s house, sometimes to extended family members’ houses. Often, they don’t have a place that they’re planning to go. They just left, and that’s why they’re calling us.”
While some youths have been afraid of catching COVID-19 in general, the coronavirus threat hasn’t deterred those who have decided to run away, Michael said. “Usually, they’re more worried about being returned home.”
Many can’t comprehend the risks of setting off on their own.
In October 2021, a 15-year-old boy posted on the forum that his verbally abusive parents had called him a mistake and said they couldn’t wait for him to move out.
“So I’m going to make their dreams come true,” he wrote. “I’m going to go live in California with my friend who is a young YouTuber. I need help getting money to either fly or get a bus ticket, even though I’m all right with trying to ride a bike or fixing my dirt bike and getting the wagon to pull my stuff. But I’m looking for apartments in Los Angeles so I’m not living on the streets and I’m looking for a job. Please help me. My friend can’t send me money because I don’t have a bank account.”
“Often,” Michael said, “we’re reality-checking kids who want to hitchhike 5 hours away to either a friend’s or the closest shelter that we could find them. Or walk for 5 hours at 3 a.m. or bike, so we try to safety-check that.”
Another concern: online enticement by predators. During the pandemic, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children saw cases in which children ran away from home “to go meet with someone who may not be who they thought they were talking to online,” Mr. Bischoff said. “It’s certainly something we’re keeping a close eye on.”