3. Be candid when speaking with patients and their caregivers
A survey reported in Time magazine on March 24, 2015, found that as many as 64% of doctors do not share a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s with their patients because of “fear of causing emotional distress in their patients” due to a lack of effective treatment or cure, and because of a “lack of time and resources to fully explain what the diagnosis means.”8
But Alzheimer’s patients and their caregivers need as much time as possible to plan accordingly, especially if they have not already discussed and finalized end-of-life planning (will, living will, health care proxy, durable power of attorney), preferences for staying at home with aides or being placed in a facility, or wishes to take final trips or enjoy final activities together before cognitive impairment worsens. Withholding a diagnosis can rob patients and caregivers of that valuable planning time.
4. Connect caregivers to resources and support groups
Information on the stages of the disease, available local support groups, and online resources are extremely helpful. Of the 15 people in my spouse support group, only one or 2 were referred there by a doctor. Become familiar with local support groups because that is where caregivers discuss common needs, learn and share helpful caregiving strategies and techniques, and find emotional support from others walking in similar shoes.
5. Help caregivers take away the car keys
When to take away the car keys is an extremely difficult emotional decision that often leads to heated arguments. People with Alzheimer’s rightfully fear losing their independence and only reluctantly accept they can no longer drive safely. But their caregivers worry about them getting lost or causing an accident or, worse, a death. Even though some people with Alzheimer’s can continue to drive safely for a while, the ever-worsening cognitive decline with the disease sooner or later leads to impaired judgment and the inability to drive safely.
If caregivers have already observed issues with their loved one’s driving ability and ask you to intervene, please help remove a major cause of caregiver stress while also making our roads safer. And please do not routinely refer people with Alzheimer’s to driving test facilities. A person with Alzheimer’s may do very well at the particular moment of the test, yet might fail that same test if it was given an hour earlier or later.
6. Manage expectations of what medications can do
None of the current FDA-approved medications have proven to have any long-term positive effects on Alzheimer’s. Clinical trial data show that these meds may be able to slow the rate of disease progression for some people who take them, but even then the benefit is short-lived. Yet many doctors, year after year, renew these “expensive bottles of hope,” as I call them, when the thousands of dollars needed to buy them could be much better spent on day-care programs or personal aides. A candid disclosure to patients and caregivers would enable better decision-making.